Understanding Bisexuality

 

Bisexuality refers to an individual's capacity for attraction to both men and women. This attraction can be sexual, romantic, affectionate, or emotional. The attraction does not have to be equally split between genders, and there may be a preference for one gender over another. It's important to note that bisexuality is not a phase or a state of confusion but a genuine and authentic sexual orientation.

 

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Bisexual Relationships

 

Contrary to common misconceptions, bisexuality does not require simultaneous relationships with both genders. The decision to be in one relationship at a time (monogamous) or open to multiple relationships (polyamorous) is independent of sexual orientation. After all, there are monogamous and polyamorous people who identify as heterosexual, gay or lesbian.

 

There is also no evidence to suggest that people who identify as bisexual are any more or less interested in sex with multiple partners or likely to cheat than people who identify as heterosexual, gay or lesbian.

 

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Challenges Faced by Bisexual Individuals

 

Bisexual people may be mistakenly criticised by the heterosexual community and by some members of the gay and lesbian communities for a perceived inability to make up their minds.

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Bisexual individuals may encounter unique challenges, including discrimination, social stigma, and disapproval based on cultural, religious, and social norms.

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Exposure to ongoing social stigma and discrimination, rather than bisexuality itself, may often result in people who identify as bisexual experiencing poorer mental health than gay men, lesbians and the heterosexual community. Research has consistently indicated that bisexual people report experiencing heightened feelings of social isolation, distress and low self-esteem. There are also higher rates of anxiety, depression, substance misuse, self-harm and suicidal ideation than those who identify as gay, lesbian or heterosexual. Importantly, these mental health concerns should be addressed with a qualified health professional.

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Labels

 

As with any identity, it's important for individuals to choose their own label. The most commonly used label is bisexual or bi. However, some people prefer to identify as heterosexual as they are rarely attracted to the same gender. Similarly, some may choose to identify as gay or lesbian as they are only occasionally attracted to another gender. Some individuals may not wish to label themselves at all.

 

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Additional Resources About Sexuality

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Find out more about a range of other sexual orientation issues and how talking to a LGBT counsellor can help:

• An exploration of same-sex attraction

• Coming out as LGBT+

• Gay and lesbian issues

 

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Bisexual Counselling Services Perth

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Please contact me to schedule an appointment if you have any concerns about your sexual orientation or need assistance with how best to work through any social or relationship pressures you are experiencing. Talking to an LGBT therapist is an effective way to manage and gain a better understanding of your struggles. My approach is warm and respectful, and I offer a safe, confidential and non-judgemental space for you to explore your concerns and develop strategies to address them effectively.