Anger Management Perth

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Is your anger causing distress to you or others around you? Do you need help with how to control anger? Conveniently located north of Perth in Wembley and south of Perth in Como, I offer anger management counselling and psychotherapy services to individuals who struggle with managing anger. Anger management will not eliminate the things or the people that enrage you, but it can teach you how to lessen and control your emotional reactions. If you are concerned about any aspect of managing your anger, please contact me to arrange an appointment.

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Understanding anger

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Anger is often associated with frustration and usually develops in response to the unwanted actions of another person who is perceived to be disrespectful, demeaning, threatening or neglectful. It may also arise when things don't happen the way we want. It may be a response to perceived injustice or unfairness or caused by excessive worrying about personal problems. It is also a response to being hurt.

 

Anger may vary in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage. Anger is a natural and usually healthy human emotion when expressed and managed in a way that acknowledges the feeling while not harming others. Expressing anger in an uncontrolled and destructive manner may significantly damage an individual's personal and work relationships, physical health, and emotional wellbeing. Uncontrolled anger can also lead to drug and alcohol misuse, violent and aggressive behaviour, and sometimes legal repercussions.

 

What does healthy anger look like?

 

Signs of expressing your anger healthily and assertively:

• being clear about what your needs are

• understanding that being assertive does not mean being pushy or demanding

• being respectful of yourself and others

• expressing yourself in a non-aggressive manner

• your anger is mild, infrequent and subsides quickly

• you can calm yourself down

 

When is anger considered destructive?

 

Anger becomes a problem when it causes a person to do something against or keeps them from acting in their long-term best interest. Signs of unmanaged or uncontrolled problematic anger:

• your anger intensifies rapidly within just a few seconds

• your anger involves verbal, emotional or physical abuse

• you feel angry most of the time

• other people comment about your anger

• your anger is causing difficulties with personal and work relationships

• you can only get your needs met by being angry

• your anger does not subside quickly

• you have a desire to dominate or control others

• you hold a grudge and are planning to get even

• you are becoming anxious or depressed about your anger

• you are using alcohol or other drugs in an attempt to manage your anger

• you are suppressing your anger

 

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Managing anger

 

Despite often appearing to be a viable short-term solution to get others to comply with your requests, unmanaged anger will usually create other long-term problems for yourself and others around you. Dealing with problems by participating in angry behaviour may often result in the anger itself becoming the problem. The individual with whom you are angry may feel attacked or belittled and respond to your anger rather than addressing what has initially upset you. Throughout your life, you will, at times, experience frustration, pain, loss and the unpredictable actions of others. You cannot change that, but you can change the way you respond and how you allow such events to affect you.

 

Strategies to manage anger

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Anger management is about being aware of the triggers and early warning signs of anger and developing skills to manage your reactions before the situation escalates out of control.

 

Common early warning signs:

• muscular tension

• sensations of heat and flushing in the face

• increased heart rate, breathing or sweating

• a sudden burst of energy

 

Helpful techniques to manage your reactions:

• step away from the situation to give yourself time and space to think clearly and calm down

• practice controlled breathing by slowing and deepening your breath and focusing on allowing the muscles in your body to relax voluntarily

• talk yourself down by saying things to yourself like, "relax" or "I'm not going to let this get to me"

• recognise that the situation is merely an unpleasant event and not life-threatening or a major catastrophe

 

Relaxation Skills:

Relaxation techniques can assist with releasing any muscle tension in the body that may contribute to experiencing excessive anger. These techniques include progressive muscle relaxation, deep breathing, meditation, yoga and mindfulness exercises.

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Cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) for anger management

 

The above strategies to manage anger may help you calm down in a crisis. However, they don't address the causes of excessive anger. CBT is a highly effective psychological treatment that centres on how your thoughts, beliefs and attitudes affect your feelings and behaviour. It involves working with a trained psychologist, psychotherapist or counsellor to help you identify unhelpful thinking patterns and behaviours and learn healthier and more effective coping skills for dealing with different problems.

 

The following list of typical unhelpful thinking patterns may cause excessive anger:

• using negative, overly dramatic, offensive or swear words when thinking about a situation

• exaggerated thinking

• using inaccurate words like "never" or "always"

• failing to apply logic to your thoughts

• failing to accept that some problems may not have a solution

• thoughts that are based on assumptions and not facts

• believing that you do not have the capacity to cope

• neglecting to acknowledge the other person's needs or perspective

• viewing your own needs as demands, instead of requests or desires

 

CBT is a proven effective treatment for various emotional, behavioural and psychiatric issues, including reducing and managing anger.

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Featured videos about anger

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Click here to go to a selection of short informative YouTube videos about anger. They also contain several useful tools and techniques to help manage anger.

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Anger management counselling Perth

 

If you are concerned about any aspect of managing your anger or would like to discuss any of the issues raised in this article, please contact me to arrange an appointment. Anger management counselling can help you understand the root causes of your anger by exploring the thoughts, beliefs and behaviours that contribute to it. Together we can work on improving your communication skills as well as developing new coping strategies and tools to help you manage anger-provoking situations.

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