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Striving to be your best or for healthy growth and achievement are considered positive traits that increase your chances of success in life. Perfectionism, on the other hand, involves the relentless need to be or appear to be perfect, or believe that it is possible to achieve perfection. There is a tendency to set standards that are so high they either cannot be met or are only met at considerable cost. It usually involves harshly judging your self-worth based mostly on your ability to achieve such unrelenting standards. You typically believe that anything short of perfection is considered unacceptable.


Impact on Health and Wellbeing


Perfectionistic behaviour may result in a person experiencing adverse physical and mental health issues such as anxiety, obsessive-compulsive behaviour, depression, chronic fatigue, suicidal ideation, low self-esteem and eating disorders.


Typical Perfectionistic Behaviours


Perfectionists typically engage in some of the following active and avoidance behaviours.


Active behaviours:

  • Repeatedly checking for flaws or mistakes

  • Excessive planning, organising and list-making

  • Not knowing when to stop

  • Correcting others

  • Fixating on achieving a flawless end result

  • Reassurance seeking - asking others to check their work to ensure it is acceptable

  • Engaging in excessive self-criticism

  • Slowness - taking an excessive amount of time to complete tasks in comparison to others


Avoidance behaviours:

  • Giving up easily

  • Avoiding situations in which one’s performance is tested

  • Procrastinating - not wanting to begin a task until they know they can do it perfectly


Areas of Life Perfectionism May Impact


Sometimes, perfectionism can affect only one of the following areas, while other times, it may impact multiple areas:

  • Work and Study

    • may take longer than others to complete a task

    • may avoid starting a task you do not feel confident in

  • Close Relationships

    • may place unrealistic standards on others which may impair the relationship

  • Sport, Health and Fitness

    • the competitive nature of sport may encourage or exacerbate perfectionism

    • may involve a compulsion to stick to a rigidly healthy diet

    • may lead to an eating disorder or exercise addiction

  • Environment

    • may involve spending a significant amount of time and energy keeping your immediate surroundings tidy and clean

  • Physical Appearance and Hygiene

    • may take hours choosing what to wear

    • may spend hours on grooming and personal cleanliness



There are many factors that may contribute to whether perfectionism develops. A few include:

  • Feelings of insecurity, inadequacy or a fear of disapproval from others. A typical assumption may become entrenched: “If I’m perfect, I won’t be rejected, ridiculed, abused – I’ll be loved and accepted”.

  • Ongoing mental health issues, such as anxiety or excessive stress.

  • Having a parent who models perfectionistic behaviour or expresses disapproval when the child’s efforts do not result in a perfect outcome.

  • People with a history of high achievement sometimes pressurise themselves to achieve these prior high standards continuously.


Techniques to Challenge Perfectionistic Thinking

  • Challenge polarised “all or nothing” or “success or failure” thoughts. Find middle ground and continuously remind yourself that everyone has flaws and makes mistakes. Remember, lowering your standards does not mean having no standards.

  • Identify and challenge unhelpful, rigid and unreasonable rules by questioning whether these rules are realistic or reasonable or achievable. Recognise the negative consequences of having or keeping these rules. Develop more realistic and flexible rules. Plan and practice implementing the adjusted rules.

  • Pay attention to your internal thoughts. Replace negative self-evaluations with more positive ones.

  • Experimentation. Select an activity that you’re particularly perfectionistic about and reduce the amount of effort put into the activity. Afterwards, reflect on what happens when you behave differently.

  • Try a new hobby. Focus on enjoying the new activity at your current beginners/low skill level and pay attention to the learning process rather than the end goal.

  • Consider placing a higher value on a variety of personal qualities when evaluating your self-worth such as kindness, loyalty, sense of humour, companionship, skills, knowledge, abilities and quality of relationships.




The above strategies might not work for everyone. Working with a therapist can ensure that you receive compassionate support and guidance as you practice letting go of your perfectionistic behaviour.


Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT):

CBT is a structured psychological treatment which recognises that the way we feel, behave and respond to situations is based on the way we think. Thinking that is inaccurate, based on negative predictions or based on false assumptions about other people and the world in general often contributes to perfectionistic behaviour. CBT involves working with a professional therapist to assist individuals in realising that they can influence their perfectionistic behaviour. This is achieved by identifying and modifying flawed thinking patterns and correcting unrealistic beliefs. Once explored and challenged, they can be replaced by more helpful and balanced thoughts and beliefs that increase self-worth and reduces perfectionistic behaviour.




If you are concerned about any aspect of managing your perfectionistic behaviour or would like to discuss any of the issues raised in this article, please contact me to make an appointment. Talking to a counsellor is an effective way to manage and gain a better understanding of your struggles. My approach is warm and respectful, and I offer a safe, confidential and non-judgemental space to support people through their difficult times.

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